Feeling worthless?

Are you feeling worthless, with a low self esteem and wondering how to climb back out of your hole?

Are you wondering why you don’t have a high self esteem, while others around seem to be confident and succeeding while you have that sinking feeling of worthlessness?

Don’t worry, you can change the way you think and feel, you don't need to feel worthless anymore, you can pick yourself up and move on.

Building self esteem is totally possible when you know and understand why you are quite often feeling worthless.

Why are you feeling worthless?

Much of low self esteem generates from way back into your childhood – this may be the case with you?

Where you always told you couldn’t do things, that you were clumsy, that you weren’t any good at mathematics, that you spelling was not good? Without realising it, these little comments become destructive patterns in your everyday life, and before you know it, you begin to believe what you are being told.

Even in adulthood, throw away comments by your friends and family begin to seed thoughts into your mind that you are no good at certain things. Your personal growth development takes a turn for the worst and the high self esteem you had of yourself suddenly disappears. You look at yourself and begin to compare yourself with others around you, making excuses as to why you can’t do this and that.

Are you in a job where your employer is always putting you down? Or your colleagues are making your positive attitude at work very difficult to maintain? Or have you failed in a project at work which you then find yourself relating to your life – “Oh, I’m a failure as I can’t do this and that”.

Are you in a marriage where your husband is always commenting on the attractiveness of another woman? That in itself hardly boosting self confidence is it! Or are you the wife who nags and puts down your husband so his self confidence diminishes?

All these are reasons for feeling worthless.

How to stop feeling worthless

Good news – you can regain your high self esteem, and boosting self confidence is possible. Remember that we are all born the same, the only difference between those that are successful and you, is that they have had different experiences. The successful businessman or woman has a different experience to you in order to get to where he or she is today.

The successful athlete has had a different experience to you in order to have taken part and win those races. You weren’t in those places that those others were to take advantage of what they have done.

What do I mean by this? I mean that you can take the experiences you have right now, and use these to your advantage, and make a success of it.

There's a fantastic book called The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz that's worth every penny you spend on it (and it's not expensive at all).

Read it slowly, carefully and with a pen in hand, because this book will help you turn your life around. You'll wonder why you never thought of the many things writen about before, some of them are so obvious, others not quite so obvious.

You can learn to get rid of excusitis, which really holds you back from moving forward. You can learn to believe in yourself, and how to get enthusiastic, and how to get rid of those dreaded fears that stop you from picking up the phone, or making that appointment - all in the name of building self confidence. It really is a fantastic read, and I only recommend books I have read.

You can learn to get rid of excusitis, which really holds you back from moving forward. You can learn to believe in yourself, and how to get enthusiastic, and how to get rid of those dreaded fears that stop you from picking up the phone, or making that appointment - all in the name of building self confidence. It really is a fantastic read, and I only recommend books I have read.

Don’t look at others and compare yourself to them. It won’t work. By all means admire their confidence and high self esteem, but you are you, and you have different experiences to them. You don’t need to feel worthless. Learning personal growth development means taking a series of short steps. Fear of failure is what most people are frightened of, so that’s why I say take short steps.

Start with something you feel you can achieve and succeed. This is a great way for boosting self confidence Why? Because once you have achieved something, you know you can do it again, and this really does encourage you to feel good about yourself.

Don’t expect your self confidence to improve immediately though. If you have been feeling worthless for a while, then accept that it’s going to take a little time for that to change. You need to take some positive action, but each time you succeed in something little, take stock, tell yourself you can do these things, look yourself in the mirror and have confidence to carry one.

You are you, you are unique, there is no one else like you! How great is that!!