How to gain confidence

How to gain confidence is one of the most common questions I get asked, and is a big issue for a huge number of people. Gaining confidence comes under the umbrella of self improvement, and in order to build self confidence, you need to take into account all aspects of a self development program.

These are some of the typical questions on building and gaining confidence that I get asked:

"How can I improve my self confidence?", "why do I feel worthless?", "what can I do to build self esteem?,” “do I have low self esteem?"

Are these questions you would like answered, or do you have others? Join us and ask them here and we'll answer for you.

Learning how to gain confidence is all about having a belief in yourself, commonly known as belief perseverance, and taking the action necessary to follow through on that belief.


How to gain confidence Step #1

One of the major symptoms of low self confidence is that you will criticise yourself. This might not have occurred to you, but it's easier to talk yourself down that to build yourself up and give yourself confidence - for example "I'm not very good in a crowd", or "I'm not good at running", or "I can't cook very well", when in fact you can probably do all those things perfectly well if you only put your mind to it.

So, how do you gain confidence? By not criticising yourself, and during the course of your daily life take any criticism that is given to you as constructive.

At last you can stop feeling worthless and begin to see the positive. Criticism can wear you down and undermine you. The next time someone criticises you, learn to rethink straight away, ask yourself why you "think" you were criticised and see if you can turn it into a positive. Stand tall.

If someone says to you "I think you could have spoken a bit slower", turn it into constructive criticism and think "OK, next time I'll be more controlled because that way I have greater authority", and silently thank the person that told you!

How to gain confidence Step #2

Keep away from negative thoughts. Negativity is fed into our mind constantly, be it such things as newspapers or TV, or even friends and family. But confidence can only grow when you are positive. How do you ever learn how to be more confident if you have negative body language and negative thoughts coursing through your mind all the time? Affirmations and positive self talk are a crucial part of your whole self improvement personal growth program, and without learning how to remain positive, you will find yourself in a spiral of low self esteem and low confidence. Your mind needs positive thoughts.

How to gain confidence Step #3

Gain confidence with knowledge. Gaining confidence will come with knowledge of the situation or problem you are encountering. Take 5 minutes out of your day to read some positive books. And No, I’m not trying to hard sell you books! However, take it from me and from others, that reading a part of a positive book everyday will turn your life around.

If you are serious about becoming more confident, you need to put in some work, and you also need to become knowledgable – and the best way to do that is to read and soak up all information available to you on self improvement, confidence, self esteem and positive thinking.

Sometimes it takes a bit of work to get to where you want to go, and sometimes all you need to do is grab 5 minutes to yourself, sit down with a book and just soak up some of the valuable information being given to you.

Not sure which book to read? I have 2 fantastic recommendations which really blow your mind. They are very different books, but once you've read them, you won't look back. The first is by Charles Schwartz which is a classic and one that should sit proudly on your book shelf."

The other is the brilliant Anthony Robbins with his legendary Awaken The Giant Within."

Or just visit my book store to see other self improvement books which might just grab your attention.

Seek the approval of those you most admire, and follow them, watch them carefully. Don't let others put you down. Find a mentor and think and act as they do.

Learn how to gain confidence by becoming knowledgeable of the situation or problem you are encountering.

So, how to gain confidence?

  • Believe in yourself and don't criticize yourself
  • Keep away from negativity
  • Become knowledgeable in your subject

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